Moving Stones: Intentionality Prevents Stress-...suggestions for preparing for next year now

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We're all pretty full of Spring around here and counting the nanoseconds to the last day of school. Maybe you're feeling burnt out or have the April Blahs like I did. Here's a blog I wrote about overcoming burn out last week and below are some tips our family uses for preventing burn out next year.

 

This was written for the families at Jill Dixon's Eclectic Academy of Learning but I believe the principles in most steps are applicable to everyone. (Don't have an EAL in your area? You can start one! Find out here.)

Suggestions- Getting ready for the new school year:

Starting the year with a plan will alleviate stress and make it clear to the child (and the parent) what success looks like so they feel empowered to succeed instead of trying to hit a moving target blind folded faced in the opposite direction.

This clip art is what I wished I looked like when I'm stressed out but alas,
I am neither that svelte or that fashionable. And look at her hair! Fabulous.
But I do make a mess like she is so that's something, right?

I hope these suggestions will relieve you of some stress as the new school year looms and you evaluate how the past year has gone. Taking a few minutes to write down a simple plan has been a great help to me. This looks different in each home. For highly organized, structured people it may look like a power point presentation with handouts and a spread sheet. For others it's a quickly scratched 'to do' list posted on the fridge with coffee stains on it.  I am an organizationally challenged, undiagnosed ADD Mom and recovering procrastinator. This means I'm very creative and flexible but I need some structural parameters to help guide me and my kids even in my relaxed home environment. It has made a big difference in helping me enjoy my summer and start the new year with confidence.

Step 1: Begin purchasing books from the book list(s) as soon as possible to insure availability and best price on used book sites. Try to have all books purchased by July 4th as prices will spike and availability lessens.

Step 2: Attend Learning Styles Workshop with middle school/high school students for learning styles assessment and interactive training to maximize teaching and learning at home with the EAL program. Date TBA in June. (Not in the Savannah area? You can do this at home with Jill Dixon's Concise Learning Styles Assessment.) Not only will your child maximize their learning potential but you may eliminate key areas of frustration in your homeschool by teaching to your child's strengths. This one thing may be the most effective change I made in my home school.

Step 3: Begin purchasing supplies and uniforms. Keep an eye out during the summer for emails from EAL teachers about suggested summer preparations for the school year.

Nothing gets kids excited like seeing
a bird poop on mom's head.

Step 4: Create excitement for the coming year's study by interacting with the history period before the school year begins by watching good movies, visiting area attractions, reading good books about the time period that are NOT on the booklist. Prepare a list of supplemental area activities to enhance your study during the year. Decide if any other subjects can be incorporated into the unit study (ie- science lessons that coincide with history figures such as Ben Franklin or Eli Whitney, etc.).

Step 5: Decide what your main goals are (no more than 5 at a time, 3 for younger children) for each child for the academic year and discuss them with your child. These should be specific goals with a clear explanation of 'success' for the child. This way you and your child have clear, realistic expectations to refer to as your guide during the year.  After you've made up your goals set them aside for a day or two then revisit them to make sure they are realistic. As the goals are reached new goals can be added as the achieved skills have become established routines and are removed from the list. It helps to have a reward system to encourage these goals (even grown ups perform better at work with incentives).I've observed that rewarding small attainable goals with small rewards works best to keep momentum going for the long term goals and larger rewards**. 

 

Examples of clear goals may include:

- completing all assigned writing steps in Write With The Best every week 

- working independently on a specific subject (ie- Grammar) first before asking mom for help 

- practicing math facts, study skills or SAT skills every day for 10-15 minutes

- coming up with and executing a time management study plan for all weekly assignments

 

 

Examples of small rewards for a job well done (hint: identify your child's 'currency'*)
- 15 minutes of screen time

- choice of book for family reading time

- a walk around the neighborhood or play time with Mom or Dad outside

- pick of that night's Red Box rental

- blue slushy from the local convenience store

- choice of dinner or desert

- community service card (doesn't have to do a chore)

 

Examples of big rewards for consistency over a longer time period (a week, 2 weeks, etc. Should correspond developmentally with your child)

- choice of next family outing (given guidelines by parents)

- money or gift card for subscription services like video games or iTunes

- new book or other item the child has been waiting for

- special dinner at home to celebrate the achievement

- money towards a large goal like camp or item they are saving up for

- friend fun night at your house

- time out with Mom & Dad and no siblings

 

I hope these suggestions help you as you wrap up this school year and prepare for the next. The goal in our house is progress-not perfection- and having a plan helps us through out the year when we find ourselves overwhelmed and need to reboot.

 

**Our family uses a reward program we started after completing a special 15 week program called Second Step at Savannah Child Study Center several years ago for our son with Asperger's. There are very specific steps and a structure which was very helpful for two ADD parents raising attention challenged kids. One of these days I will write more about the rewards and about the program. If your child has Asperger's, Autism, ADD, or emotional management issues then I cannot recommend enough the program at SCSC with Bonnie Craven. My 17 year old son would tell you that program was the most effective therapy we ever participated in and changed his life.  I truly thank God for leading our family there.